tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post5397653733392887832..comments2023-10-22T19:45:19.303+05:30Comments on Blessed Curse: Enough is EnoughVeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-5919684752137918742008-08-14T02:31:00.000+05:302008-08-14T02:31:00.000+05:30I don't know why I'm so 'tuned' into the gender-ne...I don't know why I'm so 'tuned' into the gender-neutrality (or the lack of it) of posts these days. Hence, I disagree with the terms 'wife'/'woman' in the post. Similarly the 'she's as well. <BR/><BR/>I know you will think I'm paranoid. But the fact is that I myself am already in a relationship which is as good as marriage. Oh, I'm gay.<BR/><BR/>About the actual post; I just want to say that a relationship is hard work and a lot of toil. It is upto the persons involved in the relationship to decide what suits for them. For some it might be a marriage, for some it might be an open relationship. Some might not want to commit for even a small period. Some, like me, will want to carry this on for as long as possible.<BR/><BR/>Ergo, and in short, I disagree.Kris Basshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14968227615966356396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-73918381288583135452008-08-10T18:14:00.000+05:302008-08-10T18:14:00.000+05:30Angel,Yes, U r right and I am too..:)P.S Thnx for ...Angel,<BR/><BR/>Yes, U r right and I am too..:)<BR/><BR/>P.S Thnx for the add and U r there in mine too now..Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-10626684539913177432008-08-08T21:41:00.000+05:302008-08-08T21:41:00.000+05:30Also I totally agree with Mama Mia...both her poin...Also I totally agree with Mama Mia...both her points :)<BR/><BR/>Ps: ur also on my bog rollAngel's Flighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15050128448164267107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-22971554809681045892008-08-08T21:36:00.000+05:302008-08-08T21:36:00.000+05:30Its not the deep dark well that people talk about....Its not the deep dark well that people talk about......:))...trust me :)Angel's Flighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15050128448164267107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-74865258203851287532008-08-08T00:59:00.000+05:302008-08-08T00:59:00.000+05:30#Dev,I pee @ such people and I am pretty sure I am...#Dev,<BR/><BR/>I pee @ such people and I am pretty sure I am not gonna be such rat...:) welcome to my space.<BR/><BR/>#RJ,<BR/><BR/>1. Of course<BR/><BR/>2. There won't be.. I am quite sure.<BR/><BR/>#Su,<BR/><BR/>Yups, I am quite sure of that. Not insecure of me, but fear the insecurity she would face..heheVeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-29442421272790186602008-08-07T00:35:00.000+05:302008-08-07T00:35:00.000+05:30onr thing that bothers human beings often is 'Chan...onr thing that bothers human beings often is 'Change'. and its applicability to marriage is worth a discussion. the insecure feeling that u'll not get a partner who can adjust to you now or ever, whose changes and yours go hand in glove, is what bothers many of us today. so its appropriate to stay single if need be and heart screams so. Go for it buddy. Life can be enjoyed always. how u shud enjoy it is what u shud decide!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-32781150936969974382008-08-06T21:28:00.000+05:302008-08-06T21:28:00.000+05:30@Oxy - Two points:1. Be yourself and change for no...@Oxy - Two points:<BR/><BR/>1. Be yourself and change for nothing<BR/><BR/>2. If you be yourself, you are not a changed persona dn your wofe after marriage will have no problems to live with a changed person. Same goes for her. *when there is one*<BR/><BR/>Btw, when did you turn philosophical? Darn!RJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12931620802965470365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-90832737995199156772008-08-06T16:22:00.000+05:302008-08-06T16:22:00.000+05:30quite true ... people want to follow the society a...quite true ... people want to follow the society and want to be bound by the rules ... and live that way only ... and some don't really bother about being just another rat in the race ... but anyway they are happy being so ... and life is all about finding happiness ...Devhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12064595887323567161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-21002478703296019232008-08-06T12:13:00.000+05:302008-08-06T12:13:00.000+05:30Abha,Hmm I quite feel you are right what you said ...Abha,<BR/><BR/>Hmm I quite feel you are right what you said (as per your views) and even though I try to refrain myself from using the worn out cliched 'Freedom of speech' and 'To each his own', I quite feel I am right in my own way and I know what I said is not just out of blue ramblings (as per my views.<BR/><BR/>Reema,<BR/><BR/>And so is not any other age as I feel. Be it late 20s or early 30s or late 30s or whatever.<BR/><BR/>P.S. Thnx :):)Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-50878958542300568242008-08-05T21:41:00.000+05:302008-08-05T21:41:00.000+05:30Sheeshhh 27 isnt old for a guy atleast!! Come one!...Sheeshhh 27 isnt old for a guy atleast!! Come one!! as for ur views on marriage each to his own. <BR/><BR/>p.s. added u to my blog roll.Reemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13491748504763527697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-44600124089248227372008-08-05T16:33:00.000+05:302008-08-05T16:33:00.000+05:30as for shaadi, you wont know till you have been in...as for shaadi, you wont know till you have been in it! simple!<BR/><BR/>its very easy to sit outside the relationship and make judgements, isnt it?!<BR/><BR/>no one HAS to get married... but there comes a point in time when there is a person you cannot let go of... you just KNOW that its meant to be and you atke the plunge!<BR/><BR/>you change a little and your aprtner changes a little, and you both work on the marriage!<BR/><BR/>ofcos its a gamble, but if you win, with luck and loads of hardwork, there cannot be a bigger winner than you! :)<BR/><BR/>its the same thing about having kids! i wondered what the big deal is! now that i have Cubby, it IS a big deal! the joy that they bring can be matched only by the sttength of your marriage!<BR/><BR/>the debate about why not live in can go forever!<BR/><BR/>i dont judge! if live in it is, why not! whatever suits you!<BR/><BR/>but dont take the liberty of calling institute of marriage a failure because you just dont know what its all about!!<BR/><BR/>cheers!<BR/><BR/>abhaMama - Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06330103540647472728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-43501619376680237862008-08-05T16:28:00.000+05:302008-08-05T16:28:00.000+05:30we are treading on thin lines here! :)its absolute...we are treading on thin lines here! :)<BR/><BR/>its absolutely alright to do what you want, even if it means hurting others. but then we have to be ready to face the same! simple!<BR/><BR/>honesty is a double edged sword... you can never be happy by being brutally honest all the time and hurting other people.<BR/><BR/>thats what i live by...<BR/><BR/>what goes around, comes around! good and bad!<BR/><BR/>what gives me the right to kick someones self esteem or image because i HAVE to be honest! and outspoken!<BR/><BR/>both honesty and diplomacy have their own place!<BR/><BR/>everyone makes mistakes... we change and we move on. when we cant change beyond a point or accept lack of change, we give up! <BR/><BR/>there really isnt some major rocket science to it! :)<BR/><BR/>cheers!<BR/><BR/>abhaMama - Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06330103540647472728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-6584480548368126182008-08-05T14:27:00.000+05:302008-08-05T14:27:00.000+05:30Vimmuuu,Ditto. I too am 27, been independent for 7...Vimmuuu,<BR/><BR/>Ditto. I too am 27, been independent for 7 odd years. Don't want commitment, not now not when I am old. Period. Huh... Wonder when will things change.<BR/><BR/>S, <BR/><BR/>Yups. I have my own ways of venting out my frustration which these people force on me.. And I feel good after that.. hehe<BR/><BR/>Avdi,<BR/><BR/>Exactly. And they don't understand that the more they try to control the more we get detached from them and then later they say u r 'selfish', 'idiot' n what not.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-56844461617380920602008-08-05T12:14:00.000+05:302008-08-05T12:14:00.000+05:30Dude this argument is as old as the hills. People...Dude this argument is as old as the hills. People who want to chart their own way in the life have to put a fight for it. There are any number of people (relatives/friends/neighbours) who feel they own you. It is up to you to assert yourself. The more independent you are, the more capable of loving others you are.<BR/><BR/>gaur farmao !Avahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17274222598587327676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-75629120251966644622008-08-05T09:41:00.000+05:302008-08-05T09:41:00.000+05:30You don't want to marry? Then don'tA frien...You don't want to marry? Then don't<BR/><BR/>A friend is irritating you? Chuck him/ her<BR/><BR/>There are always better things in life...always do what you feel is good, but yes always remember few things, u have a bunch of ppl related to you who get affected by actions & always be prepared for changes don't be stringent...<BR/><BR/>Jo karna hai karo, zyada sawal mat karo, na khud se na kisi aur se.....you won't get answers most of the time...<BR/><BR/>Baaki to just smile and enjoy buddy :) :) :) :) :) :)Smitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342538308099137615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-57295818739085332008-08-04T21:55:00.000+05:302008-08-04T21:55:00.000+05:30Buddy...u wudnt believe. I just had a fite wid my ...Buddy...u wudnt believe. I just had a fite wid my folks at home regarding this. They said im 27 and I need to get married. The pressure had been there from last year, but I ignored. Now its getting on my nerves. I am against marriage too; and like you, I dont know why! not becuz of any love failures, not becuz I think I cant adjust with a female.But why adjust in the first place?? Cant we take care of ourselves ? I have been doing that for the last 7 years.Probably you mite require someone when ur aged. But there are options for that as well, rt? Why be answerable to others? Why take up the additional responsibility when you already have a lot of them? Why the hell screw up happiness?vimmuuuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18263818577352118525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-5656318180389995132008-08-04T21:03:00.000+05:302008-08-04T21:03:00.000+05:30Mystique Dew,Exactly. Thats what I meant. Even i c...Mystique Dew,<BR/><BR/>Exactly. Thats what I meant. Even i change and get bored with people damn soon. Online one works for me more than real ones. <BR/><BR/>Arvind,<BR/><BR/>Well mistakes could be of any nature. What I don want is to them to crib and point it out (cuz what they see as mistake might not be mistake as I see), anyways the bottom line is people bore me to death and these were just my views. I respect other's stand as well.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-51047977240623948892008-08-04T19:05:00.000+05:302008-08-04T19:05:00.000+05:30WEll ,i can agree whit u in the first few paras.. ...WEll ,i can agree whit u in the first few paras.. <BR/>being urslef is termed mostly as arrogant.. <BR/>coming to ur second part..<BR/>i think marriage is more about mutual understanding ..i agree we cant tolerate each other's mistake..but i dont know what u mean by mistakes..<BR/>we change after 2 years..<BR/> marriage is all about understanding each other..when things cant go too long...and they become worse then the option divorce is already there..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-36417805155211126472008-08-04T14:34:00.000+05:302008-08-04T14:34:00.000+05:30Oxy..Everybody changes which includes our family a...Oxy..<BR/><BR/>Everybody changes which includes our family as well..Cant trade them, can we?<BR/>At some point or the other we all get bored with one another.Ye jus gotto take some space and then come back <BR/><BR/>With all that if u and ur partner have moved apart completely..then hey better to quit and move on :)mystiquedewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10157695593757005101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-53055563125272536872008-08-04T13:34:00.000+05:302008-08-04T13:34:00.000+05:30Varun,I respect your view buddy. Of course I too f...Varun,<BR/><BR/>I respect your view buddy. Of course I too feel you need someone whom you can love and vice versa but then why bind any such relation with 'marriage' word. Two can happily be in love and still not married.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13543217536330822671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3168350441676141778.post-32962396386465556182008-08-04T11:39:00.000+05:302008-08-04T11:39:00.000+05:30I am sorry but I disagree. I am not sure what exac...I am sorry but I disagree. I am not sure what exactly made you to write this post but what i sincerely feel is that we definitely need a someone who love you and know you most. Someone you can call your wife. Someone with whom you can share everything you want. You might be talking by your experiences or by your friends' experience of people changing in few years but there are exceptions everywhere. The word marriage is definitely scary but its surely not a horror movie...Varunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911437244977847067noreply@blogger.com